Determinism, destiny or free will?

I would say determinism most closely sums up the course of life. Free will is a decision we make entirely of our own volition, But i believe that what we want is made up of the influences that raised and surrounded us or gave us our DNA. I dislike the concept of fate, the idea that in the end we are predetermined like entertainment. Aside from that, life seems random to me. Nature and nurture, evolution is what brings us where we are but that could be construed as fate. Due to this personality trait she had a kid who was always going to make whatever decision. But i believe life is random, that i am not going to die in x amount of years, i believe i could be electrocuted through this computer due to some freak water leak on the floor above right now, or on the way home because i read while i walk, or in 60 years. However, my genes, what I've been raised to do...i could have fast enough reflexes to remove myself from the computer in time because my grandma died from obesity and I've been keeping myself in tip top shape ever since. Also, 'i know that i know nothing' and Josie nearly just flipped my opinion on fate.

Shaping Life

The factors that shape your life?
You may have the standard answer "peers and parents," but really, there are SO many possibilities that shape your life, including your own, personal experience, government, school, advertising, etc. What are the other factors (other than peers and parents) that shape your life and how?

The media is the largest contributor to my personality. School shapes me, it trains me to function in the country run buy our government. Which leads to another big contributor to my personalty, and life, my peers. Second only to the media they get their influence from, i can determine what is wrong with my life and personality by taking my issue and comparing my reaction to a random variety of cliques made up of 5-10 people, ages 16-18, then finding the mean. Usually i do that part subconsciously.
Seriously, big life influences are whatever culture i am surrounded by growing up. Whether it makes for a complete revolt against that culture or a strong devotion to it, that is one. It can be tied back to peers and parents, but what cant? Peers and parents are vessels for the influence of the government and the media. For me personally, books have had a huge impact on my life. They aren't quite media because they are from so many time periods, and the topics are sporadic enough that the influence doesn't make me imitate pop culture completely.